According to Science, Men can't love You, but Men will want to have Sex with You.

I write this as a young Woman and Researcher who fell in love in her early twenties both with a man, and with research. I loved them for similar reasons. Men and Research evoke the same emotion for me, fear. Fear I would never get the same love back and I would never get the success with either I knew I deserved. In both roles I was expected to follow tradition and break it. The topic presented here crossed my mind in my early twenties when my first love chose to end his life. Without speaking too much on his story, my first love ending that way was a huge rejection and like most twenty somethings, except with a real excuse to be melodramatic; I spent a lot of my time wondering my worth.

Am I worthy of love?

According to science and the research presented in this article you will see when I started writing this paper, the answer was no men cant love you, but men will want to have sex with you.

Sex is a more interesting topic for scholars, perhaps because they spend too much time writng about it and not enough time doing it, but I will let you make your own mind up on that. At the start of writing my research I had dated men, I never wanted to commit to them and when I did I'd burned through my better options. However, being inspired by my morbid love life it kind of made me an expert of overthinking and researching my worth, I sought my answer, through research and literature. Yet I perhaps had more fun finding out what men thought of me through dating, and living the life of an adventurous woman. My aim with my work on Trans attracted Men is to give a fresh pair of eyes (and tits) that only the lived experience can inform. As any woman may relate to; the biggest question that may be worth researching in your twenties is probably; will I find a man that doesn’t just want to get in my pants?

So therefore, I present the research of a young Transgender woman trying to understand men in her own language, research, and through the lens of gynandromorphophillia (Blanchard and Collins, 1993). The concept of Gynandromorphophilia (GAMP) was coined in a study by Blanchard and Collins (1993) and is the research that defined attraction to trans women in research for decades. Blanchard suggested attraction to Transgender women, referred to as Gynandromorphs (GAMPS) competes with heterosexual sexual interests in Cisgenger women. Perhaps it may seem strange to view the topic of men through a theory created by Blanchard who perceived any man loving me, a transgender woman, as mentally ill, and anything that was not heterosexual as abnormal. It doesn’t help that men who are attracted to Transgender women are under researched in social sciences, and when they are researched, the main focus is on sex and not love, perhaps the scholars of yesteryear weren’t in their lover eras yet (Bockting, Miner, & Rosser 2007). Gynandromorphophillia to describe men attracted to Transgender women, or in their view: biological males with feminised characteristics such as breasts and a penis. Gnandromoprhohilia suggests that sexual interest in trans women is at conflict with heterosexual penis in vagina sexual behaviour. My thought was, perhaps men just don’t want to admit certain trans women are pretty, in the same way straight women can say other women are attractive, maybe they think they can’t. I remember reading this theory seemed reductive as a woman with a penis,

I am not just a Woman with a penis, I also have a great pair of tits.

Men were not just into me because they couldn’t get a real woman. Men were into me because I was athletic, intelligent, funny, with great tits, They normally only commented on the first and last of those though plus I have never found men’s attraction that complicated. I guess it is because Men like pretty looking Women, Women like Me.

Both Blanchard and Collins, and Money and Lamacz failed to clearly define and grasp the concept of Transgenderism with multiple labels for the group such as she-males, homosexual-men, crossdressers, Transvestites, and Transsexuals. Much of the research since Blanchard and Collins (1993) has focused on erotic interest and sexuality, and has failed to explore the extent to which Trans attracted men experience their attraction, and their ability to crave love and companionship with Trans women. The research failed to explore men as anything more than cave men with sexual urges that sometimes strayed from the perceived norm of vaginal sex.

My research dissected the parts of Trans attraction that are paraphilic or sexual and demonstrate the ability for Trans attracted men to experience love and companionship with Trans women . Something I knew, and the many men I’ve rejected know. I was the dream girl for many and the dream wasn’t just getting in my pants. The dream was getting to be next to a self-proclaimed riot girl, the gobby academic with brains and beauty. What more could any man want in a woman, maybe a dick?

It is sad to me now that in my early twenties I had to pursue the research into trans attraction and love just to prove to the scholars of yesteryear that the data they found was perceived wrong. The data was perceived by men without imagination and perhaps without enough love in their heart and minds. Any man that’s fallen in love with a woman knows that she’s rarely your type, she’s so much more than your beige day to day, she’s a kaleidoscopic weekend. I think I found that when assessing my own label, and when assessing the labels in the research is I am more than just a penis and a great pair of tits. I’m a woman, and it’s not hard to fall in love with me, the research just didn’t know it yet.

 An excellent introduction to the topic and the reason for the research is clear.